Dear Annie: I read the letter from "Fired Up Army Wife," whose husband allowed a drunken female soldier to sleep it off in the hotel room that he shared with another male soldier.

As an Army wife, a soldier and a counselor, I wholeheartedly disagree with you that comradely behavior such as this would not be unusual for soldiers. Even though you work with your fellow soldiers as a team, your first responsibility is to your family. Actions that reflect poorly on your marriage are not excusable. Additionally, nursing a drunken friend is not part of the Army code of ethics.

If this guy really wanted to help a fellow soldier, he could have placed her in a cab. The fact that his wife was upset is perfectly normal and does not mean she needs counseling. -- Lincoln, Neb.

Dear Lincoln: We agree he should have placed the soldier in a cab, but we also understand why he did not. And the suggestion of counseling is not because the wife has a problem, but to repair the damage to the relationship. Our mail was split on this subject, with most wives agreeing with you. Here's more:

From Ohio: My husband is a Marine. Those in the military do need to be able to rely on one another, so why did he let her get so intoxicated in the first place? Don't let a soldier's "bonds" warp your judgment, Annie.