Dear Annie: My 22-year-old son's best friend, "Jeremy," has evidently taken a liking to my wife. He approached her once with an offer to be intimate. At that time, we both laughed it off. Then he decided to send her a text message in the wee hours of the morning, when he might possibly have been drunk. When I asked him about it, he said he wanted to get ahold of me but didn't have my number.

Some time passed and nothing else happened until last night. Jeremy called at 3 a.m. He was definitely drunk this time. My wife kindly told him to go to bed, but he didn't give up. He phoned three or four more times, and each time my wife told him nicely to sleep it off. We finally had to turn the phone off so we could get some rest. His last call was at 4:25 a.m.

I trust my wife and had complete confidence in her handling the situation at first, but now I don't know what to do. She says he probably won't remember the calls, and if he does, he'll be horribly embarrassed by the whole thing. I don't think it's that innocent.

I am torn. Jeremy is my son's best friend, and they have big dreams with their band. I don't want to hurt anyone, but I also don't want a strain on my marriage. This boy has been part of our family for almost eight years. Now he is apparently a young man with rather adventurous ideas. What do I do? -- Mrs. Robinson's Husband

Dear Mr. Robinson: Jeremy is smitten with your wife, but if you trust her, it won't go any further. Since he is your son's best friend, it would be best if she could disabuse him of his romantic notions in a gentle manner, allowing him to get over her without causing any permanent damage. Should the drunken rants increase, or if Jeremy attempts anything more, then it will be time for the two of you to sit down with him (when he's sober) and tell him this has to stop.